You have an important job in being a translator, helping others see past their first versions of interpretation of the language of your daughter for her gender expression. There is a normal resistance to change which is found at each level of awareness about something as complicated as gender.

Your emotional communication can be angry mama bear or friendly oh yeah, so many people find this unusual, but it really is so simple. But to the degree possible, I love what someone said about me once to explain why I should be allowed to take my selection of clothes into the dressing room- Why not?

It actually seems to be a very good question