My view is that gender is a relationship styling, a transitory story telling. Gender, as expression and as identity imagining, tries to reconcile the underlying duality of reproductive sexuality with non dual human character. So the feeling of gender is more or less the feeling of tension or satisfaction, of success and order or confusion, of fighting with or quelling for a moment the unstable tensions that arise repeatedly between people trying to understand what kind of relationship we will have, as well as the present and the historical and future-oriented ideas of identity we hold.