I have found this true as well. My basic rule is to be completely at peace, not embarrassed, not questioning, not seeking anything, and while it is still strange for people to see what looks so much like a man in a dress, who shouldn't be, my peace makes it not a problem. No one asks, I don't tell- I think it probably the 'explanation' we all need for whatever we see is more or less just obvious. I am a trans person rebelling against gender restrictions, but no one else hase to do anything if they don't want to.

There is a subtext a set of other messages that I think people recognize as truthful and feel at least for a moment the desire to let me be: that gender restrrictions are ill-fitting to all lot of people, that life is meant to be satisfying, that gender non conformity is a taboo but the sky does't fall after all!