I am male, but most of my life, if not all, I identified with the women around me. It is strange- like a two layer mirror- I know I look like a man and have substantial manlike attributes- and some feel to me connected to my biology- but at the same time, when I put on a dress I am right at home.

I woke up one morning after 65 years of this and said- 'I'm a mirl"- which was to say a male girl. Suddenly everything made sense.

I would say I am a type of woman, but I think I am also a type of man, depending on how you want to weight biology v personality. I don't think there is a precise definition of man or woman. It is a conditional status for the purposes of justifying how the observer chooses to treat you.

I am convinced now that the observer's calculation that someone they see 'is'- meaning 'can justifiably be accepted and treated as' a woman or man is a weighted evaluation. We give a lot of weight to anatomy, then secondary biology, but een this is conditioned on the intent of the person, and the degree to which they comply with the complex rules for a gender.

For example, I think a female who wants to be considered a woman will be, no matter how manlike she is. However, a male who wants to be considered a woman will have to accept the various restrictions and prey status assigned to women without complaint, will have to make an all out effort to conform to feminine grooming standards, and will not make it difficult for anyone by asking to be treated in ways that the people around them would have any trouble doing